After an Affair or Betrayal:
Affair Recovery Retreats
Betrayals Can Destroy Relationships
An affair is a betrayal of the most intimate and significant trust a person can promise to another.
The thing is, affairs and betrayals don’t happen when a couple is happy or doing well. They are a symptom that things have gone wrong…that there is disconnection in the relationship.
Affair Recovery Retreats
Affairs and betrayals are painful and difficult to recover from, yet they are also an opportunity.
When they happen, the couple can no longer be passive about the relationship or ignore the lack of connection. The pain of an affair pushes a couple to make change.
There are Two Sides to This Story
If you were the one cheated on:
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You understandably feel anger, hurt and betrayal. What is not spoken about is the shame you may feel.
Society encourages you to leave your partner and suggests something is wrong that you are giving him/her another chance.
You also struggle with new feelings of inadequacy, like somehow your partner’s cheating suggests you are not ‘good enough’.
You wish you could just move forward but everything is a trigger and it feels impossible to trust again.
If you were the one that cheated:
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You understandably feel scared, regretful, and overwhelmed. Confusion is also present.
Your partner keeps asking how it happened, what were the reasons, and questions your love and commitment and you really don’t know!
You still love your partner and don’t have good answers; you truly are not quite sure of the reason it happened.
In the midst of all of this, there is now a new struggle–dealing with these continuous conversations. You know it needs to be talked about, but it feels like this questioning will never end.
Affair Recovery Retreats
We look backwards so you can move forward.
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Not only ‘surviving’ the affair,
But Becoming Stronger
as a Couple.
What is an
Affair Recovery Retreat?
YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS MY CLIENT
Because I know there are two sides, I don’t pick a side.
Days prior to your Private Affair Recovery Retreat, I meet with each of you individually to gather your perspective, hear your struggle and explore your fears.
Understanding where you both are coming from, I am an ally for your relationship and your recovery.
Four Complete Days Focused on Affair Repair
When an affair happens, BOTH people want to make things better, but no one knows how. I require we have at least 4 days together because we need time for several things:
- Explore what was happening in the relationship prior to the affair
- Share all the details of the affair so there are no more ‘surprises’ later
- Process the emotions on both sides about the affair
- Address the hurt and work towards forgiveness
- Learn how to reassure and rebuild trust over time
You do all of this, plus the foundational skills of all Couples Therapy Retreats:
- Communicate more effectively
- Listen to one another more skillfully
- Connect more deeply
“I am so thankful that my husband and I found Bri!
I now feel hope in my heart and my head that we can continue to work together to build a stronger, loving relationship using the skills we have learned from Bri.
I still hear her comforting voice and encouraging words of support and know our relationship will stand the test of time.”
Pam ’23
“Bri has a sense of empathy that allows her to help her clients navigate through very difficult circumstances in a way that gives hope and reassures you that you’re not alone and that there can be hope for working through crisis and conflict.
Bri is extremely personable, great with communication, and truly a consummate professional.
Have complete confidence when considering using her services. You will not regret it and it’s worth every penny.”
Josh ’24
Tangible Tools to Help You Rebuild After an Affair
An Affair Recovery Retreat includes several components to get you on a path of healing. These include:
- Learning the science of relationships and how affairs develop
- Asking questions that are helpful (and not destructive). This includes how to ask and also what is helpful to learn for recovery
- Discussing the damage/hurt in a manner that is helpful
- Practicing how to reassure your partner and deal with future fears
- Learning communication tools and strategies to improve connection currently and for the future
- Expressing wants, needs, and fears in a manner your partner can hear well
Because Talking About This Can be Sooooo Painful
TRIAGE INDIVIDUAL SESSION OPTION…To Bring Down the Pain
As much as you may want to address the affair, sometimes you are just in so much pain that it’s just mentally impossible to effectively engage in a conversation or Retreat about it. That’s because you are still in a trauma-response to the betrayal. This is common and to be expected.
If you want to engage in Affair Repair but are just too emotionally overwhelmed, I offer triage individual sessions that specifically target the trauma and reduce the emotional distress.
Using EMDR, a well-researched technique designed to address trauma, you will process some of the emotional pain in a few of these Triage sessions. We do this prior to the Couples Therapy Retreat, if needed, so you are more able to engage in the Retreat effectively.
**This is optional and incurs an additional fee.
As difficult as affairs and betrayals are,
You CAN recover from an affair.
Let me help you make that change now.
FAQS
How many days is this Affair Recovery Retreat?
These Retreats are 4 or 5 days: 9 am – 5 pm daily.
The four-day option focuses on foundational tools necessary to address an affair/betrayal.
The five-day option includes the foundational tools plus an additional day to give you more practice to integrate what you are learning. The additional time may also be used to repair more of the hurts incurred, strengthen the ability to reassure, and stabilize you more as a couple.
Where is the Affair Recovery Retreat?
There are 3 possible locations:
1. We may work at my home office located in Asheville, NC. It’s comfortable, private, and designed to make our work successful.
2. If you are unsure about coming to me in Asheville, I am able to go to your location (or a get-away), for an additional fee.
3. Online is an option, as well, and is equally successful. This allows you to be anywhere you wish and successfully work on your relationship!
What’s included?
>> Two individual video sessions (one with each of you) prior to meeting for our Couples Retreat.
>> My complete attention on you and your relationship from 9-5 daily for four or five days. This is the equivalent of 8 to 10 months’ worth of couples hourly sessions.
>> Resource Workbook that includes exercises and information to support you at home.
>> Relationship Assessment based on an initial online intake and individual sessions that occur prior to the Intensive.
>> Individual Intensive Sessions during the Couples Intensive (1 to 2 per person) designed to augment our couples work. These sessions may address stressors you have individually in your relationship and only occur if needed.
>> Snacks and beverages to nurture and sustain you, if meeting at my location.
>> Exclusive Access to subsequent relationship coaching sessions as needed and as my schedule allows.
OPTIONAL ADD-ONS
>> Triage individual sessions prior to the Couples Therapy Intensive to reduce the trauma response and emotional distress. ($200).
>> Email recommendations for you each individually and as a couple. Also included is a summary of tools and strategies we used during your Intensive ($75).
What is the cost?
The price depends on the number of days we work together.
4 Days is $8,950
5 Days is $10,250
As you look at the costs, if you feel a bit overwhelmed and that you can’t attend, due to the price, check out my payment options.
Will my insurance cover this?
Possibly.
If you have ‘out of network’ benefits, your insurance may cover part of our work.
Unfortunately, insurance companies do not pay for full day sessions. Due to that, your insurance will most likely reimburse only a portion of our work.
We can discuss all the options and figure out what is best for your situation.
Get in Touch!
Schedule a free 60 minute video consultation.
We will discuss your relationship needs and how an Affair Recovery Retreat can help you.